<h1 style="text-align: center;"><strong>Being Good Looking Brings Specific Challenges And Successes</strong></h1>
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<p>I’m going to indirectly answer a readers email here in this post, I won’t publish his original email, mainly because it’s too long and I don’t feel like editing it down to a concise format to deal with the response. It’s an email on the subject of bridging the gap from being able to talk to girls, them sometimes showing interest, other times being offended by a little cockiness, to being intimate with them. All of this from the seemingly advantageous stance of being good looking. I’ve dealt with the good looking game before, <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/06/22/gamers-get-girls-infographic-what-it-doesnt-tell-you-about-how-to-meet-beautiful-women/">the realities of good looking guys</a> show some hidden difficulties.</p>
<h2><strong>Two Types of Good Looking Men</strong></h2>
<p>Now, to be thorough, there are really two types of <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/United-States-dating-service.html?gender=male&page=3">good looking men out there to women</a>, and depending on what type you are, you will get two diverging reactions from women, and the majority of women will react to each type accordingly. I think it’s important, but never really talked about, well because men fall into the trap of assuming that a good looking man to women are the same as a good looking woman to a man. As a man, I have 4 levels of hotness: hot, sexy, cute, and not in a million years. She can be tall and slender and be as hot as a petite charm – each brings its own pleasure, one I get to be playful with and one is more of an adventurous escapade. But in either case, if they’re both attractive, I’ll want to be with them both, one might be a slight preference, or type – but both would be either good girlfriend/wife material, or equally for casual fun. Girls have their types as well, but it is divided by casual and relationship material, or long time romance, raising her value sexy.</p>
<p>Understanding female psychology is key, as explained in <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/05/18/is-dating-the-worst/">dating dynamics and expectations</a>, giving clarity on reactions to different types of men.</p>
<h2><strong>Good Looking Men’s Advantage and Challenges</strong></h2>
<p>If you’re of the niche good looks, all you need to do is keep doing the thing you’re doing, and be more arrogant and cocky in your demeanor, being more direct will help your success immensely, stay consistent in your look and your behavior. If you’re a muscle-bound guy, don’t try to be all sensitive and cry and stuff, every girl will get turned off, no, be the situation, and you’ll enjoy plenty of fun. If you’re a hipster just keep being sarcastic and ironic and the hipster crowd will greatly appreciate you, just don’t show your reasonable side, it will spoil the whole illusion and take away from the fun. You want to run direct game on these groupies as much as you can get away with it.</p>
<p>To master such direct game and confident attitude, consider advice on <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/08/31/romance-too-much-to-ask-for/">balancing romance and confidence</a>.</p>
<p>Girls around you will show overt interest so you don’t have to worry about what they’re thinking, because usually whatever you say doesn’t matter, yes hipsters even you. When you think you’re having a mind-blowing philosophical debate on whether film is better than digital and she totally gets it, she really doesn’t, she just wants to be close to you. So get on with it. And muscle chiselers, they really don’t care about your workout routine, your dog, or UFC, she just enjoys being with you. In essence she feels great spending time with you as long as she likes.</p>
<h2><strong>The Challenges of Being the High-Value Type</strong></h2>
<p>Now if you’re the other kind of good looking, you got your work more cut out for you. Why? Because you are always more than just a casual fling to her. You will be so high value that girls although willing to risk being a one night stand with you, really really fight it, even if she’s going along with it in hopes that her magical charm will blind you to your own amazingness long enough for you to <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/United-States/state-of-Texas.html?gender=female">consider dating her</a>. After spending time with you she will either realize that she’s got no chance and become business like in her emotional distance and never call or text you again, or most likely say in a very shy fashion something about how cool you are, or how she’d like to see you again, very carefully as to not apply pressure on you for fear that anything she does might spoil her chance with you.</p>
<h2><strong>The Emotional Impact and Next Steps</strong></h2>
<p>After being with you, she will feel dread, mixed with elation. She is not okay with <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/United-States-dating-service.html?page=6">just casual time with you</a>, for every time you do, the possibility of your rejection of her will be weighing on her mind like a thousand pound weight.</p>
<p>So back to bridging a girl when you’re a good looking guy. As stated above, the first type just needs to be pretty direct, suggesting going back to your place is perfectly acceptable, she’s already shown you interest and willingness to be around you, the quicker you move the better. For the second part, which is my answer to my reader’s email, it’s a bit trickier. The first thing you need to do is realize, and not let any girl’s reaction or comments towards you convince or sway you otherwise, that every girl you meet wants you, and wants you really bad. Assume that stance. And not in the niche way, but that she’s absolutely in love with you, and any girl you are talking to does not know how to react with you. In this case, you need to work on the ability to both comfort and escalate, and most importantly learn to lead the interaction completely. Knowing this allows you to relax your game, you don’t need to worry about her reactions, and you only need to worry about what you are doing.</p>
<p>At the same time remember that everything you do cuts through her like a samurai sword and she butter – if you escalate too much, too fast, too direct, she’s gonna get freaked, she’s gonna get weird, she’s gonna wonder whats wrong with you, since you can have every woman in the room. Same goes with being too nice, or especially too needy. What’s wrong with this guy? See good looking guys in this type actually have less leeway in any sort of chasing a girl, he actually can’t chase her, or he lowers himself to an ego boost for the attention seeker.</p>
<p>If you are a good looking guy you want to remain on an even balance of cocky funny, aloofness, and interesting. You want to assume it’s all about you without being obvious about it, you want to just do things as you seem to want. Every girl you meet is assuming you’re a golden boy and gets whatever you want, so you need to be congruent with this, without being too arrogant about it. Being too arrogant about it will scare her off and think you’re unattainable. Your attainability should be throwing out a compliment or two, or, if a girl is staying in your vicinity, or trying to be around you, talking to you, she wants you – you test her eagerness to be with you by getting her to go along with what you are doing, then you begin to escalate with touching and kissing. For example a location change, or a stroll will show if she’s interested. If she goes along with whatever you want, then you can start to escalate, slowly at first, then you can get heavier once you’ve begun to make out, once making out with her, you should have no problem with taking her home. In fact, you know you’re one of these good looking types when you know a girl wants you, but resists in a full make out, because once she does, she’ll gush between her legs, and she knows you’ll be able to do anything to her.</p>
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